Love is the sacred flame that burns in me. It cannot be extinguished. Like everyone, I’ve been through heartbreak, disappointments, break-ups and even a divorce. Yet, love still very much lives in my heart. God blessed me with many people to love but mostly, with His. Without God’s love, what would I be? When I think about love, I don’t really think about relationships or romance, specifically. I think of love as the Holy Spirit. When love moves in you, the Holy Spirit is moving in you. I think of love as energy that can improve every area of our lives, including our relationships, if we allow it to.
Beloved, since God loved us so much, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God lives in us, and his love is perfected in us.
By this we know that we abide in him and he in us, because he has given us of his spirit.The Holy Bible, NRSV: John 4.11-13
As my relationship with God grows deeper, and as my faith has matured, I have come to see love as the most sacred possible gift…an energetic frequency, higher and more powerful than any other. No energetic force has more capacity to heal, restore and transform our lives. No matter what happens in the external circumstances of life, we can choose to focus on maintaining a loving spirit. This is true worship.
God is love, and those who abide in love abide in God, and God abides in them. Love has been perfected among us in this: that we may have boldness on the day of judgment, because as he is, so are we in this world. There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear; for fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not reached perfection in love. We love because he first loved us. Those who say, ‘I love God,’ and hate their brothers or sisters, are liars; for those who do not love a brother or sister whom they have seen, cannot love God whom they have not seen. The commandment we have is this: those who love God must love their brothers and sisters also.The Holy Bible, NRSV: John 4.16-21
When our dear fellow humans come at us in less than loving ways, think of it as an opportunity to grow the love within yourself. Hatred, bitterness and grudges have a way of hardening the heart. When we focus on past hurts, betrayals and traumas, these are types of friction that create a hardening or callousing of our heart. God wants to demolish the callous that separates us from loving others. But really, it seems to me that God predominantly wants to remove the barrier that keeps our love from Him. We can move past thinking of love only in terms of relationship to the other or even self. I am thinking of love in this way- your very own energetic well that exists within you that is your connection to the divine. Regardless of your relationship status or past relationship experiences…or how drained and dried up that well may feel, God can refill it. God is the source of love that we give and receive among each other. So even when we are alone, maybe even for long periods of time, God’s love can sustain us. When we abide in love, we are never alone. God is with us and working through us.
Recently, I saw unconditional love referred to as a “toxic relationship trait”. But really, it’s people who have toxic relationship traits. Unconditional love is not a license to harm or be harmed, by any means. When we really love others, we prioritize being honest, correcting gently when needed, setting healthy boundaries, openly communicating needs and frustrations. If our boundaries are repeatedly violated and we choose to limit or end a relationship, we can still choose to go about it with the most loving possible approach. If others are not able to co-exist with us in a loving, respectful manner, we can still choose grace in the face of these challenging relationships, praying for them instead of cursing them. Sometimes just choosing not to air someone’s business, gossip about them or engage in an argument with them is an act of love. No matter what someone else chooses to do or say, I am responsible for my own thoughts, words and actions. When I choose to be loving, I rise above and don’t fall into any enemy snare.
Just as forgiveness is a skill we develop through habit over time, so is love. When I look at the world, I see the devil working overtime to kill any iota of love that exists between us, desensitizing us to everyday hatred, taking over the TV and radio with drama, chaos and meanness. It’s hard to flip through radio stations without coming across a bitter breakup song. Not many songs say, “Hey, you know, it didn’t work out but I still 100% wish you the BEST! I know we weren’t a good fit but I ain’t mad at ya! In fact, I love you!” Because of this, I endeavor that much harder to eradicate any dark, hidden, bitter root within myself. Because I don’t think the devil needs one more foothold.
God draws me back to love more automatically every time I get frustrated or sad. When anger comes up, God brings me back to calm, back to peace…reminds me to tame my tongue, helps me express myself with more and more grace over time- all lessons on loving more perfectly. I can testify, I NEEDED Jesus in this area. My heart callous removal required heavy machinery; I’ll be the first to admit. I am always a work in progress, as I believe we all are from birth to death and beyond. There is no limit to our growth potential. Who will not benefit by learning and practicing loving more, loving better…more gently, more purely, without the expectation of return on investment or at the very least without vengeance?
When I see someone treated unfairly who responds with love and grace, they shine like a lighthouse, in my eyes. If we all loved like God wanted us to, what would this world look like? If love was the superpower, we each prayed to have, I think the world might look more like Paradise than ‘End Game’. The Lord reminds me there are times for war and times for peace, times for love and times for hate. But I am convinced that if we want to work for the highest good of all, in a harmonious, peaceful and civilized society, love is in need of love today (Stevie Wonder knows things). Love is the key. Don’t be afraid to show someone love today, whether it’s smiling at a stranger, being kind to someone grumpy, being patient with someone difficult, calling a loved one, lending an ear, hugging your kid. One thing we know is, tomorrow is not promised, so why not find a way to show up with love today? Even just by sitting and focusing on love, breathing peace and love in and out, you are doing more of a service than you realize. We all live in one big energy pool, what do you want to fill the pool with?
Many blessings of peace and love to you and yours. If you would like to ask God to bless your heart with more awesome love power, here is a prayer for you.💕